help dealing with depression?
To start off, I am an 18 year old male, I have a very supportive family and a girlfriend who loves me. For the last 3 years of my life, I have been depressed, going through many ups and downs. I never feel happy anymore or feel like smiling. I am always so bored, tired, and stuck inside my own head. I always have so many negative thoughts running through my head, which just makes me more depressed. My depression started when I was sent off to a tennis academy in my 10th grade year. I was home schooled from 7th grade to 10th grade because of tennis competitions and training. After spending a year at the tennis academy, I was burnt out from tennis. I had spent practically my entire child hood playing tennis 24/7 (practice all week and tournaments on the weekends). I then went back to live at home and attend my local high school. Through school I met a few friends that got me into drinking and drugs and from the first time I got drunk, high, and the first time I had a cigarette I was hooked immediately. My 11th grade year consisted of getting hammered almost every weekend and even on school nights and smoking weed almost everyday. I just loved the feeling of not feeling if you understand. I basically went from being top 100 in the nation in my age group for tennis to barely playing. The same thing continued through my senior year, just smoking more and getting messed up, ditching school, not doing homework etc. I have been in three long-term relationships that have really messed with my emotions and make it really hard for me to open up to anyone. I was cheated on once and the other one was a spoiled private school brat who messed with my emotions. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 9 months now and I am leaving for college in 2 weeks causing me to feel stressed about how things are going to work out with her. I don’t know what to do because we are so close with each other. I know for a fact that things aren’t going to work out while I’m at college considering I live in California and I am going to Drexel University in Pennsylvania. Each day I live I feel like it’s the same old thing. I feel worthless and depressed about what I did to myself. My parents spent hundrends of thousands of dollars on tennis for me and I messed it all up. Luckily enough I got a scholarship for tennis to Drexel just because of my playing record. I am very nervous about college and how I will fit in. I feel that I am a very bland person with no personality. I never seem to be interesting to anybody. I always have bad thoughts that pop into my head, whether it be death or point of life. I’ve had thoughts about suicide but I could never do it. I am at a point in my life where I don’t know where to go or what path to take. I used to have a lot of friends and hobbies now I only have friends who smoke and drink all the time and wouldn’t be my friend if I didn’t. I wish there was something that coiuld just resolve what I am feeling and make me feel happy again. I know I kind of rambled a lot but if anybody has any suggestions I would greatly appreciate it.
i have taken anti depressants and i have add and i used to take meds for it. I had a psychologist but didnt seem to help. I never have any energy as well.
Hi from France
Go see a Psychoanalyst ( not a simple psychologist, nor a psychiatrist), by letting to talk you like you want to, he / her will help you to find WHY you have this depression. Then it could be treated.
Don’t think Psychoanalysts are expensive, most adapt their prices in accordance with the income of people.
Have a great day,
Cat.
Hi from France
Go see a Psychoanalyst ( not a simple psychologist, nor a psychiatrist), by letting to talk you like you want to, he / her will help you to find WHY you have this depression. Then it could be treated.
Don’t think Psychoanalysts are expensive, most adapt their prices in accordance with the income of people.
Have a great day,
Cat.
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why don’t you relax, go somewhere far from everything you are used to, even just for few days. Try something new. try doing community service, help out those in need. First it will keep your mind off from all what you are thinking. second, you will somehow feel that you are lucky that you have what you have, and you are lucky that you are the one helping them, not the other way around. You will also learn how tiny is your problem compared to them and how happy they feel with just little thing that you do with and for them. And lastly, you were able to help others while you are helping yourself. i know this kinda sound ideal, but i think this would really help you. do it. you are the only person that could help you really take that feeling off from you.. 🙂
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i know what ur going through, well sorta but ive got depression to just a different story to how i got it and stuff….
theres drugs that help you feel happy, you can get a doctor to prescribe them. i know you’ve probably heard this already but stay away from alcohol, it’ll make you sadder in the long run.
i got through depression by not thinking bout it and by recovering from something else. honestly dont think about the depressing thoughts, i know what you mean tho by thoughts of suicide and the point of life and honeslty i still see no point in life, i still think that we’re all just going to die, but you also need to think you may as well have some fun when youre alive right? try think that if your looking for negative thoughts theyre going to be there and if you look for positive thoughts they’ll always be there as well.
i could honestly go on 4ever, email me or something if you need more help, i’ll try to help. (my email’s on my profile)… if not good luck, try not to stress out about anything, stressing is never good.
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Hello there,
Depression or anxiety, they are all signs of FEAR. May be FEAR OF people and what they think of us (whether they like us or not) and GUILT from blaming ourselves for all the things that have gone wrong or SADNESS for our loss.
Out of the whole confusion we may become frustrated which also brings ANGER depending on our personality type. Or we simply decide that LIFE is useless and feed this information into our minds which also process it over and over until it become our attitude and translate into our behaviour.
If we ACCEPTS ourselves, we will not wait for others to like us before we feel HAPPY. Normally the motive behind our actions depends on how we feel about ourselves (how valuable or invaluable we think we are). The way you FEEL depends on your MOOD
your MOOD depends on the things you THINK about (in terms of who you think you are)
Depending on whether you see your self in a positive or negative light you get happy or depressed. So the way you feel within a day in your life depends on YOU. YOU are what you decide to think about.WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT YOU DOES NOT COUNT
God knew negative events and opinions of people may into our minds and AFFECT the way we think, so he made us PERFECT so that we will always remember that.
Unfortunately, as we grow up we start listening and believing the negative things people say and about us and do to us and we ourselves starts seeing and believing negative things about ourselves and it becomes our normal pattern of thinking and surely.
in this case you believe you are not good looking enough and have not accepted your self but you are looking out for people to like you first. This will only will bring
depression,
misery and
dissatisfaction with our own lives and
worse of all low self esteem because we dont like who we are
You have to learn to accept your self first and be happy with yourself and as way of thinking changes, it will be reflected in yur actions and the way you carry yourself. And you will be happy.But it is all in your MIND.
By now, we should know that only one thing is important to the life of a person, the MIND. We are what we decide to believe about our selves.
Thus the difference between the confident and happy person and the person with low self esteem is that
1. the confident person LOVES and accepts himself and is able to reach out to others
2. the person with low self esteem does not love himself and is always waiting for others to accept him/her and since they dont feel good enough about themselves, they always distance themselves from people
SOLUTION
You have to ACCEPT yourself and that means start thinking the way God wants you to think, that you are PERFECTLY made. You are PERFECT no matter what you look like or what you have done. this is accepting yourself.
1. REPEAT in your mind to your self that you are PERFECT every moment (dont say it out, THINK it in your mind)
2. Dont FEAR what people will say or think
3. REPEAT in your mind every moment that you are PERFECT
4. Pray to holy spirit to help you to keep thinking this way.
you will be feeling happy in a few weeks. Remember, this will be your way of thinking for the rest of your life
God bless and help you
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