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So… another legal(s) question. I NEED to get a lawyer but of course no ones around until Monday and I will worry myself to death until then. My ex calls me tonight. This is all about the issue a few months ago where my son asked to be adopted… So my ex tells me tonight that I will be getting served with papers hahahah…

When I ask what for he tells me that there are several things pending with the state att. 1) fraud. his child support is auto deduct from his check. In the past his company has over paid me and when I took steps to give it back I was told that all I had to do was agree to allow them to take "X" amount out of each payment in the future to cover it and that’s the best way to resolve this… that is what I have been doing. The last few weeks they have been double paying me. I called them and as per the agreement they told me that if his company sends it in with my name that they have to give it to me and if it is a over payment then they will just keep taking "X" amount until it is covered. Fine not a problem… he states that my case worker (at my request) has forged papers saying that he is in arrears and that they have auth the state to take double payments until this is caught up… I have not been to court / talked to judge / filed ANY sort of papers about child support. I am clue less but needless to say PER HIM I have a fraud charge coming.

2)He then tells me that he has hired a PI and this person has been following me for the last 8 weeks… they know every breathe that I take (If this is true then I hope this person was bored to tears!) States that he now knows everything about me… my employment record, 9 years of bank statements. Both of my kids school records (my daughter is not even his…) ect…Because of this, this has helped the state prove that there is cause to file neglect charges on me and take my kids… now maybe i am stupid but wouldn’t DCF or some other agency have to look into this. Visit me, visit my home ect? I have NEVER been visited my DCF or had cause to have them visit me.

3) my husband in under a PTI. This is for theft and his first offense ever. He was adv that as long as he behaves / shows up for his monthly check ins / pays the fines / does not get in any trouble that there are no other restrictions… he can come and go… drink even within reason and leave the county as needed… we went to NC back in Feb… My ex caused me and my husband to fight. It was bad and my ex called the cops. He is telling me that with one phone call he can have him arrested for this issue… the cops that responded at the time of issue ran his name… checked all his info and released him from the scene. How the hell can he cause my husband to be arrested for a issue that happened out of state when the responding cops did not see fit to?

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4) he says that the states has me for insurance fraud… Both of my kids are on Florida Kid care. have been for years. My ex now states that he can prove that he has had insurance on my son for the last 9 years and I just failed to use it… This is not something that I was ever advised of. In fact he told my mother that when we divorced the judge told him he had to pay for it…not give me the info… It’s hear say but….

1) Hmm.. Try looking at that from his perspective. How would you like it if a big chunk of your check was being taken out and you knew it wasn’t supposed to be? And then the response was "we’ll just take out less later. Good luck with your bills for THIS month!" I’d be pissed too. And so would you – don’t deny it. It sounds like a big misunderstanding, but you should really try to get this fixed as soon as possible. He may have a case here.

2) Creepy, and probably BS if you haven’t heard from any officials. And not to his benefit if it’s true and hes just waiting to report you. If he knows that his child is being neglected, and he’s letting it continue for personal reasons, then he’s neglecting the child too.

3) Yeah…kinda bad for you’re case there. When you say "fight" do you mean like fist fight, or screaming fight? Because that’s kind of important. He probably can’t get your husband arrested for that, but it’s something you need to maintain an awareness of. Also, if he was out of state, and his case worker doesn’t know about the incident, and if it was a violation of 1 of his conditions, then your ex may have a point… Tread softly.

4) Fraud in an intentional crime. You can’t defraud someone if you don’t know an alternative exists.

5) What’s the story about your kid asking to be adopted? Adopted by who? Is he asking to live with his father, or just with some random couple? That kind of makes me wonder about that whole neglect thing and if that isn’t just a story. How old is the kid, and why does he want to be adopted? That could be a major playing card for your ex.

I don’t mean to make you panic, but if your ex has a decent lawyer, you need one too.

So… another legal(s) question. I NEED to get a lawyer but of course no ones around until Monday and I will worry myself to death until then. My ex calls me tonight. This is all about the issue a few months ago where my son asked to be adopted (he is 12 and wants his step dad to adopt him)… So my ex tells me tonight that I will be getting served with papers hahahah…

When I ask what for he tells me that there are several things pending with the state att. 1) fraud. his child support is auto deduct from his check. In the past his company has over paid me and when I took steps to give it back I was told that all I had to do was agree to allow them to take "X" amount out of each payment in the future to cover it and that’s the best way to resolve this… that is what I have been doing. The last few weeks they have been double paying me. I called them and as per the agreement they told me that if his company sends it in with my name that they have to give it to me and if it is a over payment then they will just keep taking "X" amount until it is covered. Fine not a problem… he states that my case worker (at my request) has forged papers saying that he is in arrears and that they have auth the state to take double payments until this is caught up… I have not been to court / talked to judge / filed ANY sort of papers about child support. I am clue less but needless to say PER the ex I have a fraud charge coming.

2)He then tells me that he has hired a PI and this person has been following me for the last 8 weeks… they know every breathe that I take (If this is true then I hope this person was bored to tears!) States that he now knows everything about me… my employment record, 9 years of bank statements. Both of my kids school records (my daughter is not even his…) ect…Because of this, this has helped the state prove that there is cause to file neglect charges on me and take my kids… now maybe i am stupid but wouldn’t DCF or some other agency have to look into this. Visit me, visit my home ect? I have NEVER been visited my DCF or had cause to have them visit me.

3) my husband in under a PTI. This is for theft and his first offense ever. He was adv that as long as he behaves / shows up for his monthly check ins / pays the fines / does not get in any trouble that there are no other restrictions… he can come and go… drink even within reason and leave the county as needed… we went to NC back in Feb… My ex caused me and my husband to fight. It was bad and my ex called the cops. He is telling me that with one phone call he can have him arrested for this issue… the cops that responded at the time of issue ran his name… checked all his info and released him from the scene. How the hell can he cause my husband to be arrested for a issue that happened out of state when the responding cops did not see fit to?

and last I promise)
4) he says that the states has me for insurance fraud… Both of my kids are on Florida Kid care. have been for years. My ex now states that he can prove that he has had insurance on my son for the last 9 years and I just failed to use it… This is not something that I was ever advised of. In fact he told my mother that when we divorced the judge told him he had to pay for it…not give me the info… It’s hear say but….

I will use initials because the word is not acceptable on yahoo, but what he is feeding you is BS and none of it is even close to the truth. He cannot do any of the things he is claiming and he is trying to intimidate you, there is an old saying and it has connotations that are best not explained, Tell him to pound salt and stop worrying that is his intent and you are falling for it speak with an attorney and if in fact a PI had accessed the financial information that he claims it would be illegal and the PI would lose his license. Tell him his BS smells and you will see him in court.}{

So… another legal(s) question. I NEED to get a lawyer but of course no ones around until Monday and I will worry myself to death until then. My ex calls me tonight. This is all about the issue a few months ago where my son asked to be adopted… So my ex tells me tonight that I will be getting served with papers hahahah…

When I ask what for he tells me that there are several things pending with the state att. 1) fraud. his child support is auto deduct from his check. In the past his company has over paid me and when I took steps to give it back I was told that all I had to do was agree to allow them to take "X" amount out of each payment in the future to cover it and that’s the best way to resolve this… that is what I have been doing. The last few weeks they have been double paying me. I called them and as per the agreement they told me that if his company sends it in with my name that they have to give it to me and if it is a over payment then they will just keep taking "X" amount until it is covered. Fine not a problem… he states that my case worker (at my request) has forged papers saying that he is in arrears and that they have auth the state to take double payments until this is caught up… I have not been to court / talked to judge / filed ANY sort of papers about child support. I am clue less but needless to say PER the ex I have a fraud charge coming.

2)He then tells me that he has hired a PI and this person has been following me for the last 8 weeks… they know every breathe that I take (If this is true then I hope this person was bored to tears!) States that he now knows everything about me… my employment record, 9 years of bank statements. Both of my kids school records (my daughter is not even his…) ect…Because of this, this has helped the state prove that there is cause to file neglect charges on me and take my kids… now maybe i am stupid but wouldn’t DCF or some other agency have to look into this. Visit me, visit my home ect? I have NEVER been visited my DCF or had cause to have them visit me.

3) my husband in under a PTI. This is for theft and his first offense ever. He was adv that as long as he behaves / shows up for his monthly check ins / pays the fines / does not get in any trouble that there are no other restrictions… he can come and go… drink even within reason and leave the county as needed… we went to NC back in Feb… My ex caused me and my husband to fight. It was bad and my ex called the cops. He is telling me that with one phone call he can have him arrested for this issue… the cops that responded at the time of issue ran his name… checked all his info and released him from the scene. How the hell can he cause my husband to be arrested for a issue that happened out of state when the responding cops did not see fit to?

and last I promise)
4) he says that the states has me for insurance fraud… Both of my kids are on Florida Kid care. have been for years. My ex now states that he can prove that he has had insurance on my son for the last 9 years and I just failed to use it… This is not something that I was ever advised of. In fact he told my mother that when we divorced the judge told him he had to pay for it…not give me the info… It’s hear say but….

Ok first of all.. calm down… him saying things, and these things being true could be two different things.. so until u actually get served dont read to much into it.. he could be blowing smoke just to freak you out.. and if thats the case well , its working..

The child support will straighten itself out.. not a big deal a judge will figure it out and they will just let him pay less for however long until its caught up .. 50 a month or whatever until its fair again.. (although if he’s making more money now then he was when c/s was issued could back fire on him if your lawyer (if he actually is having u served) counters with a modification that could make his c/s increase which would wash it out if not make him owe u even more.)

LMAO@ the case worker upon your request forged documents lol wow you have alot of power.. bet u didnt know that lol.. so much so that u could get a state worker, to risk their job to forge doc for you lol.. he’s full of crap , he’s grasping at straws.

PI.. wow your x must be really rich if he can afford a PI for 8 weeks.. and he’s complaining about a few weeks of extra child support yet he can afford a PI for 8 weeks.. tell him to show u proof.. lol and im pretty sure that if they tapped into your bank records for the last 9 years , thats not public knowledge and im pretty sure he or the pi could get in trouble for that so again i think he’s full of crap..

If he’s not on your daughters list of people of contact ( listed as father etc) then you can sue the school for giving out any information on your child that isnt his.. he has a right to the records on his son unless u have court papers stating otherwise but your daughter is another story .. and typically the schools check before giving out any information on a child.. they will check your license to make sure your on the contact list.. As far as the neglect.. you know if you neglect your children or not.. do u feed them, bathe them, put a roof over their head, are u making sure they are provided for and go to school.. if so he has nothing.. and DFS would laugh in his face.. btw you said he’s out of state.. what did he do drive from his state just to go to the kids schools to get a copy of their records??? lol..

LOL your x is an ego maniac he cant call the cops on a situation that happened awhile back that was already handled.. he’s full of himself he’s trying to intimidate you and scare you.. tell him to bring it! because he’s full of crap , id even be willing to bet that if not 100% atleast 95% of what you’ve put here that he’s said is b.s. and he’s just pissed and lying out his butt to try and scare u.

Tell him to prove it when it comes to the insurance fraud.. can he prove he sent u a scaned copy via email, or a sign reciept through snail mail that he gave it to u, etc because if he cant prove that he gave it to u, then it cant be proven that you had it.. now if at the last judgement it is recorded that they gave him a deduction in c/s because he had medical benefits on the children and you continued to use Kid care then possibly you could get in trouble.. but if at the time there was no proof of insurance for the kids then i wouldnt worry about it.. and tell him your still waiting on a card because he has to give u one in order to use it.. he cant "NOT GIVE U THE INFO" lol let him tell that to a judge lol.. better yet.. email him about the insurance see if he’s stupid enough to put that in an email and show that to a judge lol…

Dont let this guy get to u.. id be willing to bet that he’s full of crap.. Dont worry until theres something to worry about and if you dont have papers in hand.. then theres nothing to worry about.. no need to get a lawyer until your served because i think he’s blowing smoke.. and even if he’s not, your lawyer cant do anything until you get served anyways to actually read what he’s suing you for.. so stop getting stressed out over this stupidity.. He has nothing.. based on what you put here.. and most of the things u said, sound far fetched…. so dont let him rattle you.. just say "COOL cant wait to see the papers" and get off the phone.. stop letting him bait u into a conversation..

I live in Texas- my parents diviorced 15 years ago and since then unaware to me she has kept all of his letters and any form of communication hidden from me. I was informed 2 days ago thru the attorney generals office – that my father was now listed as deceased. Thats it I ran a search and the only info I could get was that he died september 24,2008 in port richey florida and he was cremated. I need help finding my rights as his daughter to access his information such as siblings, last will and testimonys, and offical cause of death. Basicialy I want to find out as much as possible about him as I am not able to even visit a grave site? Please help- my family hated him and I have no support I have search online for for days finding anything I can and this is all I have. I f anyone knows of anything I can do please let me know?

Facts: Lewis william wood
02/07/1953 – 09/24/2008 died at age 55
Born in michigan- died in new port richey, florida (online it said ss listed as california)
divorced from: Tina Wood- Texas
known children: Ashley & Adam Wood Juanita (half sister I only heard of but no other info)
No alive relatives on his side
Please help in my search to know my deceased father – also why was I informed 2 years after the fact? Why Did it take that long?
~*~*~*~ Thank you for taking the time to help- as stated below-
The TEXAS attorney general sent the notification to my mother because of child support- back pay

I looked at the letter and althought I know she would not of told me the letter was mailed out 2 days before I saw it

And yes I did ask her and she ofcourse denies any letters were ever sent or recieved by him to us

Yes found funeral home and called but b/c privacy laws they could tell me nothing but he had past and he was cremated- thats where I hit a road block

thank you so much for any help- it truly means the world to me

> she has kept all of his letters and any form of communication hidden from me.

You could threaten to sue her for them. She might just burn them, though, and lie about it.

> the only info I could get was that he died september 24,2008 in port richey florida

You’ll have to write to the county there, prove you are related (A Xerox of your driver’s license and birth certificate should do it) and buy a copy of his death certificate. It will have cause of death and who did the cremation. The funeral home may have a copy of his obituary; it may not. If not, you can try writing to the county library, sending a SASE and a small donation. They will usually look it up for you. I looked for 20 minutes and didn’t see any obit on-line.

> siblings,

That will be in the obituary, maybe.

> last will

You’ll have to write to the probate court in his county, and will probably have to buy a copy.

> official cause of death.

Death certificate,, above.

> Basically I want to find out as much as possible about him

If his obit says he was a member of the Elks Club and First Methodist, you could write to both, explain your problem and ask if any member who knew him would send you their memories.

> also why was I informed 2 years after the fact? Why Did it take that long?

Just some guesses:
a) Your mother hates you
b) Your mother didn’t think it was important
c) He left you a million dollars and she is spending it as fast as she can
d) None of the above

My roommate was divorced from his wife a year and a half ago. She left the state with his two children, without telling him, before the official divorce. So he remained in Pennsylvania and started the divorce all the way in Colorado. The only way he could go to the court hearing, was by phone. The day of the court hearing, their phone lines were shot out by a hunter. So he ‘didn’t appear to court’, so the judge agreed to everything …which was to pay exactly 60 of his net.This leaves him with 300 dollars a month to support himself. She refuses to tell him where exactly she is living, or even a phone number to call the kids. According to the documents he has to pay so much because she is claiming she needs child care. But we know she keeps quitting her job and now just works for Avon…obviously doesn’t need that. If he could prove that, which he sorta can, it would drop from 900-1000 a month to around 530. The problem is, he obviously can’t pay a lawyer to revisit this as he is now well below the poverty line. He would normally make 25,000 a year. Instead he gets 7800.
She doesn’t provide him with any of the documents the law requires her to do, such as address, school and medical records, ect and so forth. Not to mention she doesn’t send him appropriate tax records, as ordered. She has full custody, and he can only visit with 30 days written notice to have SUPERVISED visits. There is no reason for this…I know the both of them very well and she is just being spiteful. He hasn’t seen his kids and it’s been several years since he’s seen them. She’s claiming she works full time, but she doesn’t, he even has the records to prove it.

Now the question, what can one do in this situation? It’s obviously outrageous and should be re-looked at, especially the court orders she is breaking. Is he doomed to starve to death, pay thousands of dollars to children and never see them? Is there someone he can report this too? What can be done?

Contact the agency that he pays child support too, ask if they know of any local contacts that he can utilize at a low cost. Tell him to set up an app’t with a court employee who deals with custody issues. This is ridiculous! If he can contact the courthouse where the hearing was, they might let him reschedule the original hearing if he has proof as to why he was unable to call. There are options out there, he needs to be very pro-active and resourceful. I don’t understand why a father would go years without seeing their child(ren) and not do anything about it.