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Can’t find anything except for her children’s death records? Help?

November 9th, 2011 1 comment

Her name is Lillian Tyler, born June 15 1918 in Kings, New York. She married Albert Pacini. Had some kids, two of them died. Only records I found of her were in 1920 when she lived with a huge family (unable to find out which Tyler was her parent after extensive researching…no birth record). No residence record after the 1920 NY record. And the only other two that I found were with her and her husband’s name on it for a death certificate of her two kids in a 5 year period. My aunt Carol (lillian and albert’s daughter) said she left her sibling in 1945 because of her depression from losing two kids. I have been searching everywhere (especially familysearch.com…very helpful) but can not seem to find anything else on her. Why isn’t she documented? Why can’t I find a birth certificate, a marriage certificate, a residence after 1920, anything? I really want to be able to help my aunt find out who her mom was and if she is still alive or not or where she died. If anyone can give me some advice or help me out or explain to me why she seems to disappear after 1920, it would be greatly appreciated. She is such a mystery to everyone in my aunts family and we all want to find out what happened or a little bit more about her. I thought everyone had to participate in the census? Why can’t I find anything else on her?
Thank you for answering! I really need some help.

There’s lots of reasons why you may not find someone in an online resource ranging from they don’t have the helpful record, the name is indexed so poorly it’s not searchable, they moved and you’re looking in the wrong location, the information on the record is wrong, or there’s some fact you don’t know (i.e. she remarried or somehow got listed under a stepfather’s name). It’s likely she is documented, you just can’t find the documents so far. There are some cases where a person is undocumented. Sometimes by choice, sometimes by the cruelties of life (i.e. died a Jane Doe), and often because the documents have been destroyed (i.e. courthouse fires).

You may find it helpful to go ahead and order a birth (& maybe marriage) record direct from the appropriate agency:
http://www.health.state.ny.us/vital_records/
http://www.nyc.gov/html/records/html/about/faq.shtml

I wouldn’t try to order a death record until you can be certain she has died and what name she may have died with (i.e. remarried). Find A Grave may be helpful. There seems to be a couple possibilities with a maiden name Tyler born in 1918. For this site, spelling counts so try multiple variations.

What do you think about?

October 25th, 2011 8 comments

the mother who helped her 6 yr old daughter write a false essay about the death of the child’s father in Iraq so that she might win tickets to a Hannah Montana show? Her excuse … she was just trying to help her daughter have a nice birthday. The child won but a search of military records proved that it was ficticious. Should she lose her tickets or not?

Yes, she should lose her tickets unless the essay could be about an untrue story. If the story did not violate the guidelines, then she can keep them. But the lesson that Mom is teaching is that it is okay to tell lies as long as it meets your means.

My widowed mother threatened to ditch me for Foster Care/City House care in Texas. Is it legally possible?

April 16th, 2011 2 comments

Normally this wouldn’t be a big deal if it was once, but this is the 5th time this year and she says she wants to kick me out because I’m a medical burden and rebellious.

She threatens to have a lawyer sign me over and have me live at city house with life insurance for my dad’s recent death. She also threatened foster care and abandonment in an Ikea store. I want to know if this is legal for her to do any of the above 3.

We have a CPS record for various things but nothing serious. She assaulted me 2 weeks ago but the police blew me off and told me to grow up.

Me: 15/Male/High School Student in texas. Suffering from various medical issues that have to be taken care of ASAP.
Mom: Widowed for a little over a year.

I would REALLY appreciate it if you informed me about the legality of these threats. It sounds possible but then again, don’t all parents want to ditch their kids?

Thanks!
We got into the arguments about my life-threatening case of pectus excavatum.

Yes some days all parents want to ditch their kids and go to the beach. Then the kids come screaming in the house and need lunch and the parents forget about it and tend to their little darlings. I am sorry she is verbalizing these things to you, she sounds like she is at the end of her rope and concerned that she cannot take care of you. Legal, I don’t know. Appropriate to say to your kids, NO. Hope you can find a counselor at your next school and talk to someone about how all this is affecting you.

how can i find a missing dad!!?

March 24th, 2011 2 comments

ok so my dad has being missing for about 1yr now. we have filed a police report, but still we know nothing!!! death records nothing!!! how can i find him??? i know his drivers lic # where can i go to track him with that? i also know his ss# i can track him with that right he has to be using it!!! his name is: jerry frank white 59 yrs old last time i saw him was in dallas texas!!! send me a msg if you can help me

My mom found her dad just recently about two years ago and she was separated form him when she was 5. So it is possible she looked on the internet for people with his name and sent them letter with her name and asking if they could possible be her father.

Please help: I’m terrified of flying?

March 24th, 2011 5 comments

I know this might be kind of strange or pathetic to some people, but I’m scared to death of flying on airplanes. I have to at least three times a year for family trips, but I just get more and more scared every time. I know that it’s the safest form of transportation and everything, but I still can’t get over the idea of a crash and dying. Also, my mom has to go away on buisness a lot and evertime she’s gone I freak out and make her call me right before and right after and I check her flight online… that may sound really weird but I’m so frightened I’m going to lose someone to that. Do you guys have any ideas or tips that will make flying less scary for me? I’m going on a plane to hawaii for spring break in a month. I’m going on Hawaiian airlines and they have a perfect safety record… but I"m just so nervous. Any tips or advice to help me?

As crazy as it sounds, one thing to do is put yourself in that position. For example, if you’re afraid of a roller coaster, how do you break the fear? Avoiding it? No, repetition. Believe it or not, your mind can train itself to not be afraid. Mind over matter. If you want to have help with your repetition in breaking your fear, take some relaxing prescribed medication, listen to music, eat your favorite handy snack. And just relax. Take deep breaths. Look out the window every once in a while, and know that soon you will be at your destination having a good time. And eventually, flying will be like nature.

How do I look at online records without having to pay at all for them?

March 15th, 2011 1 comment

I’m doing family history research, and I’ve been trying to look up birth, death, marriage, etc records. Every site I go to you have to pay SOMETHING for them. I want FREE online records that I can look at ONLINE without having to pay or get them shipped to my house.

My Mom said to look at court houses, but I can’t find our court houses online.
I live in Mississippi, but I’m looking for records in Pemiscot County of Missouri. That’s where most of my family moved to in the 1900’s on my Dad’s side. On my Mom’s side, I have no clue. Probably Tennessee because they were full Cherokee Indians. And she is half Cherokee Indian.

My Great Aunt has done my Dad’s side of the familys history all the way back to before the civial war, but she’s too picky to share with me any of it.

Anyway, if anyone knows a completely free website where you can look at ONLINE records, then please tell me. And remember NO PAYMENTS. NONE. lol. Most people that answer me always give me a website and they still have some kind of a payment on there. And I don’t want to have to pay anything at all.

There is a site called Heritage Quest that is completely free, but you must get the access code from your public library. Call the library and ask if they subscribe to Heritage Quest and how to access it. You do this online from home, but most libraries require you to have a library card to get the access code.

will I need to sue new york life to get death benefits?

March 14th, 2011 5 comments

My mom died during the contestable period and I’ve provided all the information to the insurance company. last week I was told that all medical records have been received and that it should take about 14 days to review and for them to let me know if they’re paying out or not. today my brother called and they told him they waiting for more records from another hospital. I’m thinking they’re giving us the runaround and maybe it’s time to hire an attorney. is there anyone who have some advice?

that is pretty standard when someone dies during contestible period. The insurance companies want to check medical records to make sure all health issues were disclosed at time of application.

If you think there may be a problem with not all records being disclosed at application time, get an attorney…otherwise you may want to wait a little longer to see what the insurance company says first before incurring legal expense

In illinois, is probate court a must, after death?

March 14th, 2011 5 comments

My mom left us a will. She made me an Excutor. Her house is worth less then 500K, maybe around 400K. Me and my brother are in agreement. Her will was to split it 50/50. Do we have to go to probate court and how long do we have before we go to court? We would rather not use the court services unless we must. There is no other value nor money. I took original will to downtown to 12th floor, record it. They made me open self addressed evelope that mom originaly mail to her-self. is there a book that takes you step by step or on internet. I hate to go to courts, unless it is a must

Yes you have too go to probate. You might be able to do it yourself. Check with legal aide for free advice.

HHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!?

April 11th, 2010 5 comments

DEATH RECORDS…SOMEONE PLEASE HELP?
WE WENT TO A CEMETERY YESTERDAY, AND THERE WAS A GRAVE, THAT CAUGHT MY INTEREST, I HAVE LOOKED ONLINE, GONE TO THE CITY RECORD AND I CAN NOT FIND ANYTHING, ON THESE TWO LITTLE KIDS. iF ANYONE HAS A FREE SITE OR SOME THING THEY KNOW OF CAN YOU PLZ LET ME KNOW. HERE IS THE INFORMATION ON THE KIDS. I DO NOT KNOW THE FAMILY OR ANYTHING ELSE EXCEPT WHAT IS ONE THIER GRAVE…

THE NAME: Charlotte E. Davis
Birth: 9-14-1872
Death 3-16-1873

HER SISTER
NAME: unknown
birth 9-3-77
Death: 3-16-78

BOTH BURIED AT TOQUERVILLE UTAH…

THEY WERE BOTH 6 MONTHS OLD, BOTH DIED THE SAME DAY, AND THEY WERE 5 YEARS APART IN AGE, I AM TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAPPENED TO THESE POOR LITTLE GIRLS, AND WHAT CAUSED THERE DEATH

i HAVE LOOKED ON FINDAGRAVE, AND IT LISTS THE YEAR BORN AND DIED, BUT THE CAUSE OF DEATH IS BLANK

AND I DONT WANT TO HEAR, " YOU WILL PROBABLY NOT FIND IT"
EXTENDING TEH QUIESTION.
I DO NOT KNOW THE NAMES OF THE PARENTS, I HAVE TRYED TO GOOLGE, ASK,YAHOO ECT. AND CAN NOT FIND ANY THING AND I MEAN ANYTHING!!!! YOU CAN E-MAIL ME AT SLINDSAY@HE-EQUIPMENT.COM IF YOU ARE INTERESTEDD IN HELPING, THANNK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!!

well now you have me intristing
extend this question i will help you on your search (:
my mom is a police officer so she may have aces to this sort of things

do you know the answers to the questions about tangerine by Edward bloor?

March 2nd, 2010 1 comment

1. what happens after a citrus grower sells there land to a developer?
2. what upsets Pauls mom when they move to Florida?
3. why will Aurthur do anything for Erik
4. why do you think Paul would feel safer if Erik was the body at the undertakers instead of mike?
5. what is your first impression of the guys at tangerine middle school?
6. why was Mr.fisher made the new director of civil engineering?
7. why do you think paul couldn’t tell the truth about tino, erik or joey?
8. aurthur hits luis with a blackjack. was it justified? why?
9. what did mr.fisher not know about pauls soccer playing?
10.what do you think paul will do about luises death?
11.why did theresa tell paul not to go to luises funeral?
12. what do you think paul was doing with his suit in the back yard?
was it fair for antoine to give up his records?

I think the reason why you have got no answers to this question is because you have put it into the wrong section.

it should be in the book section

hope this helps